About Having Children in Islam

So basically in Islam we believe that children are a special gift from Allah. In the Quran it says that Allah gives daughters to some people, sons to some people, both to some people, and some people He doesnt give children at all. This is all in Surah Ash-Shura verses 49 and 50. What this means is that Allah is the one who decides everything in the end.

You are totally allowed to pray and ask Allah for a baby boy. Its completely okay as long as you ask with respect and you accept that only Allah makes the final decision. You have to submit to whatever He decides is best for you.

What I am going to explain to you now is a proper Islamic way to ask Allah for a son. I will tell you the daily routine, what to recite, and the duas you should make. Both husband and wife should do this together while asking Allah for a healthy and righteous son.

The 41 Day Routine - Explained Step by Step

Who Can Do This Wazifa

This is only for a husband and wife who are properly married according to Islamic law. If you are not married in a halal way, you cannot do this. It is not for people in haram relationships.

When to Do It

The absolute best time is in the last part of the night before Fajr prayer. This time is called Tahajjud time. Allah comes down to the lowest heaven at this time and asks if anyone wants to make dua to Him. So this is the most powerful time.

But I know that waking up before Fajr is really hard for many people. If you really cant wake up at that time, then you can do it after Isha prayer at night. Just try to do it at a quiet time when you can focus properly.

Being Clean and Pure

Before you start, both husband and wife must make proper wudhu. You have to be in a clean state.

For the wife - if she is on her period, she cannot recite Quran verses during those days. But she can still do the other parts like saying Ya Wahhab, making dua in English or her own language, and doing dhikr. During the period days, just pause the Quran recitation part and continue after the period ends. Those pause days do NOT break your 41 day count. You just keep going and complete the total 41 active days.

How Long to Continue

You will do this routine for 41 days total. If menstruation comes in between, you pause and then continue. You do not have to start over from day 1. Just complete the 41 days when you can.

The Daily Steps - What to Do Each Day

Step 1 - Make Wudhu

Make fresh wudhu properly. Make sure you are clean. Sit in a clean place in your house, maybe on a prayer mat.

Step 2 - Pray 2 Rakat Nafl Prayer

This is like a special prayer of need. We call it Salat al Hajah which means the prayer of need.

Before you start, make your intention in your heart. Say to yourself - O Allah I am praying these 2 rakats only for You and I am going to ask You for my need.

In the first rakat:
First recite Surah Fatiha like you always do
After Fatiha, recite Surah Ikhlas 3 times. Surah Ikhlas is the short surah that goes Qul Huwallahu Ahad.
In the second rakat:
Again recite Surah Fatiha
Then after Fatiha you have 2 options. If you have memorized the verses from Surah Maryam where Prophet Zakariya makes dua for a child, recite those verses. If you dont know those verses, then just recite Surah Ikhlas 3 times again.

Why Surah Maryam? Because in that surah, Prophet Zakariya who was very old and his wife also could not have children, he made a beautiful dua to Allah and Allah blessed him with a son named Yahya. So we follow his example.

After you finish both rakats, say the salam to end the prayer.

Step 3 - Sajdah of Gratitude

Right after you finish the 2 rakats, go straight into sajdah. This is a prostration of thankfulness to Allah. Put your forehead on the ground.

While you are in sajdah, say this 33 times:
Subhanaka ya Allah ya Wahhab
This means - Glory be to You O Allah O Supreme Giver

The name Al Wahhab is one of the beautiful names of Allah. It means He is the One who gives gifts freely without any limit. He gives to whoever He wants without asking for anything back.

Count on your fingers or use a tasbeeh counter to make sure you say it 33 times.

Step 4 - Ask for Forgiveness 100 Times

Now sit properly and recite this istighfar 100 times:

Istighfar (100 times)
Astaghfirullaha Rabbi min kulli dhanbin wa atoobu ilayh
In English this means - I seek forgiveness from Allah my Lord for every sin and I turn back to Him in repentance.

Why do we do this? Because our sins block our blessings. If we have sins, our duas might not be accepted. Pure rizq and pure children come when we repent to Allah. So we clean our hearts first by asking forgiveness.

You should use a tasbeeh or counter to count 100 times. Take your time and really mean it when you say it. Dont just rush through it.

Step 5 - Send Blessings on Prophet Muhammad

Now recite Durood Sharif 11 times. The long version is:

Durood Shareef (11 times)
Allahumma salli ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala aali Sayyidina Muhammad kama sallayta ala Ibraheem wa ala aali Ibraheem innaka Hameedun Majeed
This means - O Allah send Your peace and blessings on our master Muhammad and on the family of our master Muhammad like You sent peace and blessings on Ibrahim and the family of Ibrahim. Truly You are Praiseworthy and Most Glorious.

The scholars say that when you send durood before and after making dua, it is like sealing your prayer. It helps your dua get accepted. The Prophet peace be upon him said that any dua that has durood before and after it will definitely be accepted.

Step 6 - The Main Wazifa Recitation (THIS IS THE CORE PART)

This is the most important part. You will now recite a special line 99 times. Use your tasbeeh beads or a counter. Say it slowly and with full concentration. Dont let your mind wander.

Main Wazifa (99 times - use tasbeeh to count)
Ya Wahhabu Ya Razzaqu Ya Khaliqu hab lana min ladunka dhurriyyatan tayyibatan dhakaraan saalihan sihhatan wa barakah innaka ala kulli shayin Qadeer

Let me break this down so you understand what you are saying:

Ya Wahhabu - O Giver of Gifts

Ya Razzaqu - O Provider

Ya Khaliqu - O Creator

hab lana min ladunka - grant us from Yourself

dhurriyyatan tayyibatan - pure offspring

dhakaraan - male, a son

saalihan - righteous

sihhatan - with health

wa barakah - and with blessing

innaka ala kulli shayin Qadeer - You have Power over all things

So the full meaning in English is - O Supreme Giver, O Provider, O Creator, grant us from Your special mercy a pure offspring, a righteous healthy blessed baby boy, for surely You have Power over all things.

Say this 99 times with your tasbeeh. This should take maybe 10 to 15 minutes if you do it properly. Dont rush. Say each word clearly. Think about what you are asking for.

Step 7 - Raise Your Hands and Make the Long Dua

After you finish the 99 times, now raise both your hands up like you are begging Allah. This is the time to make the main heartfelt dua. You will say this at least 3 times.

The Long Special Dua for a Righteous Baby Boy

The Main Long Dua (say at least 3 times with hands raised)
Allahumma ya Wahhaab ya Razzaaq ya Khaliq kulli shayin min adam asaluka bi rahmatika allati wasiat kulla shay wa binoori wajhika alladhi adhaa as samawati wal ard an tarzuqani waladan dhakaran saalihan tayyib al qalb saheeh al jasad thabitan ala at tawheed aabidan laka wahdaka nafian lid deen wal Islam.
Allahumma in kunta talamu anna fil dhakar khayran li fi deeni wa dunyaaya wa aakhirati faktubhu li wa qaddirhu li wa yassirhu li wa baarik li feeh wajaalhu qurrata aynin li wa li waalidayh wajaalhu sabab li ridaak.
Allahumma la tajal fi hadhal amr fitnatan li wa la masiyah wajaalhu rahmatan wa sakeenatan fi baytinaa. Innaka ala kulli shayin Qadeer.

The meaning in English is:

O Allah, O Giver of Gifts, O Provider, O Creator of all things from nothing - I am asking You by Your Mercy which has covered everything, and by the Light of Your Face which lit up the heavens and the earth, please bless me with a righteous baby boy who is pure in heart, healthy in body, firm and strong in his belief in You alone, who worships only You, and who will be beneficial and helpful to the religion of Islam.

O Allah if You know that having a son is good for my religion, my life in this world, and my life in the Hereafter, then write him for me in my destiny, decree him for me, make him easy for me, bless him for me, and make him someone who brings coolness and happiness to our eyes and make him a reason for Your pleasure with us.

O Allah please do not let this matter become a test or a sin for me. Make this child a mercy and bring peace and calmness to our home. Truly You have Power over all things.

You should say this dua at least 3 times with your hands raised. Really concentrate and feel the words. This is not just reading, you are talking to Allah. Imagine that Allah is listening to you right now because He is.

Talk to Allah in Your Own Words (VERY IMPORTANT PART)

After you finish saying the Arabic dua, dont just get up and leave. Now is the time to talk to Allah in your own language from your heart. Just speak honestly like you are talking to someone who loves you and cares about you. Because Allah does love you and care about you.

Example of what you can say (in your own words and language):
My Lord, I am so weak and I have no power at all except what You give me. You are the One who gave children to Adam. You gave a son to Nuh. You gave Ibrahim a son when he was so old that people said it was impossible. Nothing is impossible for You. Everything is easy for You.

If having a righteous healthy noble baby boy is written in my destiny and if it is good for my faith and my life and my afterlife, then please send him to me easily with Your protection and blessing. Make him a son who worships only You, who follows the Quran and loves the Sunnah of the Prophet, who brings light to our family and not any corruption or problems.

And my Lord, if You know in Your infinite wisdom that having a son is not actually the best thing for me even though I want it so much, then I ask You - still fill my house with a child who is full of light, full of Iman and faith, full of modesty, full of blessing. Please dont let me fall into jealousy when I see other peoples sons. Dont let me be sad or angry or try any haram methods to get what I want. Give me a heart that is satisfied and happy with whatever You decide. Let me be a grateful parent who thanks You always, not a parent who complains all the time. Place mercy and love in our home and save us from disappointment and from any shame.

Please dont make this desire for a son lead me into sin. Make this a way for me to come closer to You and increase my faith. Ameen.
This part is extremely extremely important. You cannot skip this. Allah loves when His slave comes to Him with a broken heart, crying and begging sincerely. Even if you dont cry, just talk from your heart. Be honest. Tell Him your fears, your hopes, everything. He already knows but He wants to hear it from you.

A Short Dua to Say Throughout the Whole Day

Apart from the main 41 day routine, you should also keep making this short dua quietly throughout your day. You can say it while walking, sitting, working, whenever you remember.

Short Dua (anytime during the day)
Rabbi hab li min ladunka dhurriyyatan tayyibah
This means - My Lord grant me from Yourself a pure and righteous offspring.

If you specifically want to ask for a son but in a respectful way, you can say:

Short Dua for Son (anytime during the day)
Rabbi hab li min ladunka dhurriyyatan tayyibatan dhakara in kunta talamu annahu khayrul li
This means - My Lord grant me from Yourself a pure righteous son if You know that he is good for me.

Just keep saying this softly all day long. When you are cooking, when you are traveling, when you are alone. Keep your tongue busy with this dua. It only takes a few seconds to say but if you say it hundreds of times a day, imagine how many times you are asking Allah.

Some More Important Points to Remember

Do this wazifa with the right intention. You are not doing magic. You are not forcing Allah. You are just asking Him nicely again and again because He told us to ask Him.

Both husband and wife should do this together. The husband should also be praying for a righteous son. It should be a team effort.

Along with this wazifa, you should also be doing all your 5 daily prayers on time. How can you ask Allah for something special if you are not even doing the basic things He told you to do? Make sure your salah is regular.

Stay away from sins as much as possible. Try to lower your gaze, speak good words, eat halal food, be kind to your parents and other people. The more you avoid sins, the more your duas get accepted.

Give charity. Even if its small. The Prophet peace be upon him said that charity protects from calamity and it increases rizq. So give something in charity regularly while doing this wazifa.

Have good thoughts about Allah. Dont think Allah is ignoring you or He doesnt care. Allah hears every single dua. Sometimes He gives you exactly what you asked for, sometimes He gives you something better, and sometimes He saves you from something bad. Trust in Allah completely.

Be patient. 41 days might seem long but its actually not that long. Some people do this for months. Dont give up. Keep going even if you dont see results immediately.

After the 41 days are complete, you can either take a break or continue if you want. But dont stress yourself too much. Do it with peace in your heart.

Extra Things That Make Your Dua Stronger

  • 1. Correct niyyah (intention): You are asking Allah, not trying to force Allah. There is a huge difference.
  • 2. Husband and wife both involved: Both should make dua together. Both should want a righteous child, not just any son.
  • 3. Pray all 5 daily prayers on time: You cannot ignore Fajr and then ask for special gifts. Do your fard prayers first.
  • 4. Leave sins as much as possible: Lower your gaze from haram things, avoid backbiting, stop lying, speak truthfully, eat halal food only, respect your parents.
  • 5. Give regular charity (sadaqah): Even a small amount helps. Charity brings barakah and removes difficulties from your life.
  • 6. Think good of Allah always: Never think Allah doesnt care about you. That thought comes from shaytan. Allah hears every whisper you make.
  • 7. Be patient and consistent: 41 days is nothing compared to a lifetime. Some couples repeat this routine for months with beautiful patience and eventually Allah blesses them.

Very Important - What If Allah Gives a Daughter?

Listen carefully. If Allah gives you a daughter instead of a son, that is not a lesser result. That is not a disappointment. That is not bad news.

The Prophet peace be upon him loved his daughters deeply. He taught us that raising daughters with love, respect, and good Islamic character can be your shield from Hellfire on the Day of Judgment. A righteous daughter who makes dua for you can be more valuable for your akhirah than 10 arrogant sons who dont even pray.

So yes, you can ask Allah for a baby boy. Its allowed. But you must also say in your heart - Ya Allah, I will love whatever You give me, and I will never ever insult Your gift.

Never Ever Do These Things

  • Do NOT go to fake spiritual healers, babas, or amils who demand money or promise 100 percent guaranteed boy. That is complete fraud and it can lead to shirk which destroys your faith.
  • Do NOT do weird rituals like writing names on paper and burning them, making blood offerings, going to graves and asking dead people for help, or any other strange things. These are completely haram.
  • Do NOT insult daughters or act like girls are bad news or a burden. That behavior is a major sin and it goes completely against the teachings of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him.
  • Do NOT skip your basic Islamic obligations like the 5 daily prayers, earning halal income, respecting your spouse and then expect Allah to give you miracles. Islam doesnt work like that.

Final Heart Advice

Here is the truth that you need to understand. Sometimes Allah gives you a son exactly like you asked. Sometimes He gives you a daughter who melts your heart and becomes your door to Jannah. Sometimes He delays children for years to raise your spiritual rank and wash away your sins through patience and sabr.

Your job is actually very simple:

  • Ask Allah beautifully with respect and humility
  • Live your life in obedience to Allah
  • Trust completely in His decision

If Allah blesses you with a son after doing all this, then do not forget Allah. Do not become arrogant. Do not think it was because of your wazifa. It was only because Allah decided to give you. Now your responsibility is to raise that son properly. Teach him Quran, teach him salah, teach him good manners and character. Dont just make him your son, make him a true slave of Allah who worships only Him.

If Allah gives you a daughter instead, then celebrate her openly and proudly. Love her with all your heart, honor her, protect her dignity, educate her properly, raise her to be strong in faith and character. She might be the one making dua for you when you are in your grave and you will thank Allah for giving you such a blessing.

And if Allah has delayed children for now, do not assume you are being punished. Do not think Allah is angry with you. Sometimes delay is actually mercy. Sometimes delay is protection from something you dont know about. Sometimes delay is just part of a bigger beautiful plan that will make perfect sense later when you look back.

Final Dua:

May Allah Al-Wahhab (The Generous Giver) and Ar-Razzaq (The Provider) bless you with a pure, healthy, righteous child who will be a comfort to your heart in this world and a source of continuous reward for you in the next world. May Allah make your home full of mercy, iman, warmth, love, and barakah. May He protect you from jealousy, from haram methods, and from any sin. May He give you patience, gratitude, and complete trust in His wisdom. Ameen Ya Rabb al Alameen.
One More Beautiful Thing:

Before you begin these 41 days, it is very beautiful and recommended to pray Salat al-Istikhara at least once. In that prayer, you ask Allah sincerely - If having a son is good for me in my deen, my dunya, and my akhirah, then make it easy for me. But if its not good for me, then turn my heart toward what You love and what is better for me.

That way, your whole journey starts with complete surrender to Allah, not with desperation or obsession. You are showing Allah that you want what He wants, not forcing your own desires.

May this guide benefit you and may Allah accept your sincere duas. Remember that the best children are not necessarily boys or girls, but those who are righteous, healthy, and bring their parents closer to Allah. Focus on asking for righteousness first, and then mention the gender as a humble request, always ending with if Allah knows it is best for you.